Hey do you ever feel like everyone is having babies but you? I am being to think its in the water (should I be worried?). The last place I worked over the last two years has seen the production of something like 10+ babies! Yikes! I guess that's what happens when thirty-somethings finally get full-time jobs with maternity and paternity benefits...they have a baby and cash in their family benefits.
Sometimes I feel like I am one of the few people who isn't and perhaps does not want one...a baby that is because I am all for the job with benefits. I find it all a bit funny because even some people I swear a few years ago were like "oh no we aren't having kids, have had one." It's fine and I am happy for them but I find myself trying to come up with excuses to not have to attend a plethora of baby showers. Something men are lucky to not have to attend. Count your lucky stars men because they can be scary.
I recently with a friend attended a baby shower and having known the "new mum" since I was 5 but having never met any her friends after having reconnected recently myself and a mutual friend were slightly unsure what to expect at her baby shower. Were they going to be scary diapers filled with melted chocolate bars simulating baby poo? Were we going to have to guess what it was or even worse eat it? Was there going to be a huge swan made out of diapers? If the truth be told we were a little worried....
However, we didn't need to be. When we arrived the hostess greeted us with full arm tatoos on both arms and we both breathed a sigh a relief. It was a good baby shower we basically ate really good food, didn't have to hold the baby and laughed lots. It was fun and if all baby showers were like that one maybe I wouldn't mind them or babiess. Kidding but not really. I even at my approaching 36+ years do not feel the biological clock ticking or any sort of hankering for babies....I am definately ok with that but its just adds to the social pressures. I remember when one of my friends had her first baby her husband immediately asked me like day two of the baby's life when I was going to have one. I thought he was kidding turns out he wasn't. My reply was "I think you a) need to have sex first and b) a steady income also helps." Whatever I am sure if it is meant to be sometime before I hit the guiness book of world records for oldest mum ever I will have a kid. But I hope to have plenty of practise with copious amounts of organims and birth control first!
Food For Thought
"Now the thing about having a baby - and I can't be the first person to have noticed this - is that thereafter you have it." ~Jean Kerr